People Series: Non-Supporters: Non-wr

3. Non-writers

They are those who don’t usually read or write very much unless they have too. They avoid it like a plague, and they have no idea why writers and readers enjoy it so much.

They don’t understand why you are writing so much. . . the list is really endless. . .

  • Therapy
  • Enjoyment
  • You love to tell a good story
  • You feel connected to your character
  • You have a talent for words
  • Expression
  • You feel you need to write as much as you need to breath
  • The list goes on

They feel writers sometimes make no sense and are in a book or the computer way too long. It’s like an artist trying to explain a Picasso painting to a chest player who only see logical strategies and numbers.

A writer sees the world in a different way than those non-writers. They see the world as a story to be told or idea to be expressed. They are an artist with words as their paint.

Not all Non-writers, are non-supporters, but some just cannot relate. I have been asked “How can you sit the computer so long?” or “You really just wrote 2,500 words in the last three hours, how?”

I can sit at my computer and type and write and read like a video gamer can sit in from the TV or computer screen and play for hours at a time.

What gets me when is when a non-supporters: non-writer is completely against writing/reading.

The ones that put me down: with gut-punching quotes. . .

  • “You write or read too much.”
  • “It’s not steady or stable.”
  • “You are NOT out doing something. . .”
  • “You are wasting time on the computer.”
  • “Why aren’t you living your life?”
  • “Have you gotten a REAL job yet?”
  • “Why are you ignoring everyone?”
  • “You really think you are going to make a lot of money doing that?”

They kind of mix in with questioners.

Remember a novel does NOT get finished in one night. It takes time and dedication. It’s a lot of work to write, edit, rewrite, and edit. . . that is even before getting it in a publisher’s hands.

 

Most writer’s do NOT make millions and do NOT become super famous over night either. They should have some kind of support, because it hard to get out there.

People Series: Non-supporters: Questioners

2. Questioners.

They are people who keeping asking questions about your work and when you plan to get publish that they start to make you doubt yourself. Then you start to question yourself.

  • Is it really stable to make money writing a book?
  • How long do you think it will take?
  • Did your editor get all of your mistakes?
  • Are you sure you going to finish this?
  • How many publishers have you talked to?
  • Are you sure you want to do this with your time?
  • Are you sure you enjoy this?
  • What is is about?
  • Haven’t vampire, werewolves, ghosts, sex etc been done to death?
  • Are you sure it’s good?

The questions that really get to you start with “Are you sure” those are the questions that plant doubt within you. . . make you question yourself.

  • Am I good enough?
  • Will I get get published?
  • Will people actually read and like my work?
  • Should I really be writing?

Doubt goes into guilt and then guilt goes into fear. . . and next thing you know you are in therapy with writer’s block.

You need to let yourself know that there will be these people in your life. Use them to keep things in check instead of letting it get to you.

Instead of doubting yourself try to use the questions and making then into goals.

Is it really stable to make money writing a book? It can be, but you can do side jobs or part time work to have some money so you can write as well. You also make money writing. . . there are online contest for short stories or some magazines that take articles.

How long do you think it will take? It depends on how inspired you are and how determined you. Make mini goals. . . like within the first two weeks to have up to chapter 4 completed or a certain word count.

  • Did your editor get all of your mistakes?
  • Are you sure you going to finish this?
  • How many publishers have you talked to?

Just deal it when it happens. I do recheck my and other work, because I am that much of a control freak.

  • Are you sure you want to do this with your time?
  • Are you sure you enjoy this?

You would NOT be doing this, if there was not some kind of enjoyment in it. If you enjoy something, then it is NOT a waste of time.

What is is about? If you have to explain your story; they are not listening or they are confused.

Haven’t vampire, werewolves, ghosts, sex etc been done to death? Write what you like or know, others will enjoy it too. They are cycles in their fads. . .

Are you sure it’s good?

This question is worst question out of all them. . . this is the one that causes the most doubt. You need to break yourself from the haunting voice that echoes this question in your head like a very bad ghost. When you are writing do NOT think about how good or bad it is.

When writing draft one ultimate goal is to finish the work/novel/story etc.

Focus making things better to understand and to read when you edit your work a million times over.

Again do not people like this get in your head, just use them to help your goals and focus.

New Writing Series: Dealing with People

I’ve learned a few things about myself and socializing over the years.

  • I really don’t think I am that good it (socializing). I always feared of saying the wrong thing growing up.
  • Now that I am older, I believe in the truth; this show who my real friends are and who can handle me, and sometimes who I can handle. (if that dress doesn’t work for you, I am not afraid to say so.)
  • I speak more when I am drinking, but I do not drink a lot. I have health issues and drinking can really mess those up.
  • I am really more anti-social as I get older. A part of it is that I don’t want to put extra energy into a friendship in which I will just used. Another part is I do like my own time for reading and writing.

So I do majority of my socializing online. I am in many writing groups. I am very social in October just before NaNoWriMo.

I have learned there are groups of people once you tell them that I writing a book or stories (and that I dream of being a famous author) . . .

I deal with each differently.

It’s not good or bad. I try not be a b**** or brat. . .

I try to treat everyone civil. (Yeah, I have my mood swings and can get jealous and cranky. It’s usually just my imbalanced hormones.)

This is my series. . . the different people I deal with as a writer.

Stuck in a web of writer’s block

I had plans for writing everyday and post a bunch of blogs. . . it has not happened because as of Dec 30th circumstances had changed.

I hope to get things back to my goals soon, but for now please be patient with me. (I think I am writing this more for myself than my few, wonderful readers.)

Many of my friends on here have been asking about me. . . I am currently numb. I just helped an ex (who was still a good friend of mine) he had gotten a liver transplant in August and was good until his sudden death a week ago. I am still trying to spin my head around this.

It started with an exploratory surgery and ended 14 days later with my ex (still a good friend) dying of cancer of his new liver, in his stomach, and lymph nodes.

I just don’t understand, I was talking to him, watching him work on physical therapy one day and two days later in tears as they announced time of death.

I had been blocked because I had been busy going back and forth from ICU to my appointments and such . . . I little time to think clearly. Now I have time, I’m just stunned.

I due plan to continue with writing, but I just do NOT know how fast it will be. (He would have wanted me to never stop my writing. I hope that he’ll be my inspiration.) 

 

What Happened in 2016

2016 was a very challenging year. I felt really stuck and trapped this year, so I really didn’t feel I accomplished that much. I mean I didn’t even finish a book: writing or reading. However I have learned a lot about myself.

Things I accomplished in 2016.

  1. I wrote over 50 blogs in this page. (140 blogs throughout all of my pages).Links to my other blogs
  2. I have at least 15 followers. ( I hope I have entertained and help some follow writers. I also to get more this year.)
  3. I written over 225,000 words ( I know not quite the goal of 500,000, but not bad with all I have gone through.)
  4. I started Book 2 in my vampire series. (However due to some emotional issues; it is on the back burner for a while.)
  5. I have written two diaries this year.

Things I have learned in 2016

  1. I have figured out some of my muses. https://rebekahquinne.wordpress.com/2016/10/19/introduction-my-muses/
  2. I realized that winning NaNoWriMo doesn’t stop the world. It isn’t everything. (Bit does feel good when I win. I’m sad because they don’t work with http://www.createspace.com anymore.)
  3. I write really well in chaos, especially while visiting in the hospital. (I’m even there now.)
  4. I write way more than I edit.
  5. I am more of an adder than a cutter when it comes to words.
  6. I can not write well around who don’t support it.
  7. I was suggested to put my paranormal/horror/occult genres aside for a while. . . (until I figure the source of my depression and anxiety.)
  8. I will still write even though many people think I write too much.
  9. I give myself much more ambitious goals than I can achieve. (for example: write 500,000 words.) I plan to push it down to 300,000 words in 2017.
  10. It has been a very emotional year for my muses and I.
  11. I was easily distracted this year.
  12. I rather edit than clean.
  13. I need to realize that writing is for me. It is a good expression of therapy for me.
  14. I had a therapy book and/or release book before I started therapy.
  15. The people I looked up to were the ones who seem to criticize when I wrote a lot.

NaNaWriMo

This is the first time in six years I am not going to finish NaNoWriMo. I had 13,955 words.

I had some person issue come to surface, and my novel for (NaNo) is getting put on the back burner. I have been professional advised to change genres (from horror and genre) until I get  my personal issues figured out.

I do feel dishearten and discouraged about it, but I need to focus on some issues and clear out the cobwebs. I will be writing everyday, I was told to which is awesome. I’m just trying my focus.

I hope that next year or even my Camp NaNo I will be ready to write again. 

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I have no stopped writing; in fact, I have been encouraged to keep writing. I will also be keeping this blog going when  I can.

Please keep reading and writing.